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Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 11:24 GMT
I usually enjoy Talk of The Nation on PBS, but yesterday's discussion turned
into a victimology session as folks crawled out of the woodwork to decry
teachers who had sexually abused them. What further raised my objection flag
was the guest who insisted that women who have intercourse with their
students are just as guilty as men of rape.

I don't deny that women can manipulate male teens and do them some damage,
but they cannot legally commit rape. Abuse, assault, corrupting a minor,
these will do,
but rape has always been defined as violent forced intercourse against a
woman.

MW3, noun, second definition:

2 : unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out
forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or
with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent .

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary

I think it matters that we both not change the traditional definition, and
not equalize the penalty for the negative behavior and abuse of authority,
sorry. There are certain things which men can do and women can't do. Rape is
one of them.

Joanne

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Robert Lieblich - 28 Nov 2007 12:01 GMT
> I usually enjoy Talk of The Nation on PBS, but yesterday's discussion turned
> into a victimology session as folks crawled out of the woodwork to decry
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>
> http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary

This definition contradicts your argument.  (Was that sufficiently
succinct?)

> I think it matters that we both not change the traditional definition, and
> not equalize the penalty for the negative behavior and abuse of authority,
> sorry. There are certain things which men can do and women can't do. Rape is
> one of them.

Are you saying that MW got it wrong?  Your basic point is quite clear,
but I'm not sure why you quoted a dictionary that disagrees with you.

At any rate, there are several degrees of rape in the criminal law of
most US states, and how the term is used varies with context.  It
doesn't trouble me to use the term "rape" to describe when a woman has
sex with an underage boy.  Most people recognize a difference in
degree between that and forcible sex inflicted by a man on a woman.
Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?

Ultimately, the issue is the flexibility of the word "rape," a matter
on which reasonable people can differ.
Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 12:31 GMT
>> I usually enjoy Talk of The Nation on PBS, but yesterday's discussion
>> turned
[quoted text clipped - 23 lines]
> This definition contradicts your argument.  (Was that sufficiently
> succinct?)

No it doesn't. A 14 year old boy may not have maturity of judgement, since I
assume you focus on age of consent, but that doesn't mean his 30 year old
teacher who might be feeling her hormones violently forced him to have an
erection and enter her. A man can always use force. But the majority of
women aren't going to overpower young males into forced sex.

It isn't the same, nor is the damage. Women are more traumatized by forced
penetration.

>> I think it matters that we both not change the traditional definition,
>> and
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
> Ultimately, the issue is the flexibility of the word "rape," a matter
> on which reasonable people can differ.
HVS - 28 Nov 2007 13:08 GMT
On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote

>>> I don't deny that women can manipulate male teens and do them
>>> some damage,
[quoted text clipped - 17 lines]
>
> No it doesn't.

Well, it does, actually.  MW carefully qualifies the definition as
"usually of a female", and in doing so have made it clear that they
are not restricting it to "only of a female".

You're on much sounder ground with the strict legal definition, so I
have no idea why you decided to cite a decidedly ambiguous definition
in support of your view.
Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 14:11 GMT
> On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote
>
[quoted text clipped - 23 lines]
> "usually of a female", and in doing so have made it clear that they
> are not restricting it to "only of a female".

Usually of a female refers to the fact that men can be raped.

Women, if they are anatomically women, cannot legally rape, and if that is
astoundingly a conservative view on my part, so be it.

My concern is that if we aim for parity in all forms of sex crimes, we
lessen the impact of the greater wrong.

It has already taken centuries for rape to be criminalized, and women are
still marginalized even if they find the courage to speak out. If we are
going to penalize Jane Doe for a romp with a more viril youth in the same
way we penalize John Doe for a forced act, then we begin to trivilize the
whole concept of sexual misconduct.

If I bong you over the head and tie you up, that is aggrevated assault, but
it still isn't rape.

> You're on much sounder ground with the strict legal definition, so I
> have no idea why you decided to cite a decidedly ambiguous definition
> in support of your view.
Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 14:15 GMT
>> On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote
>>
[quoted text clipped - 28 lines]
> Women, if they are anatomically women, cannot legally rape, and if that is
> astoundingly a conservative view on my part, so be it.

That should be [an astoundingly]

> My concern is that if we aim for parity in all forms of sex crimes, we
> lessen the impact of the greater wrong.
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>> have no idea why you decided to cite a decidedly ambiguous definition
>> in support of your view.
HVS - 28 Nov 2007 15:36 GMT
On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote

>> On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote
>>
[quoted text clipped - 29 lines]
> if that is astoundingly a conservative view on my part, so be
> it.

It's not whether your view is conservative or not;  when you speak  
of something which cannot "legally" be done, you're either right or
you're wrong.

Whilst one can argue what *should* be legally possible or
impossible, what actually *is* legally possible or impossible isn't
a matter of opinion;  it's a question of fact.

And that fact is jurisdictionally dependent:  here's one where it's
legally possible:

From http://www.hupd.harvard.edu/help_assault.php

(quote)

According to Massachusetts General Laws, Chapter 265, Section 22,
rape is defined as follows:

Having sexual intercourse or unnatural sexual intercourse with a
person and compelling such person to submit by force and against
his/her will, or compelling such person to submit by threat of
bodily injury punishable by imprisonment in a state prison up to 20
years.

Rape may occur between people who know each other and between
people who have previously had consensual sexual relations. Under
Massachusetts law, both men and women may be the victims or the
perpetrators of rape.

(/quote)

And here's one where it isn't (at least in 2001):

www.scottish.parliament.uk/business/research/pdf_res_notes/rn01-
46.pdf

(quote)

Rape is a gender-specific crime. In Scotland, it can only be
committed by males upon females, which appears to mean by persons
biologically male at birth upon persons born biologically female.
It is, therefore, a crime of specific personal violence perpetrated
on females.

(/quote)

So your clear and concise statement that "Women, if they are
anatomically women, cannot legally rape" is clearly erroneous.

If you want to argue that women cannot "realistically or
conceptually" commit rape, you may have a case;  but you're the one
who's introduced the concept of what is or isn't legally posssible
into the discussion.

And depending on the jurisdiction, it is -- as a matter of fact and
not of opinion -- legally possible for a woman to commit rape.

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Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 16:52 GMT
> On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote
>
[quoted text clipped - 60 lines]
> Massachusetts law, both men and women may be the victims or the
> perpetrators of rape.

I don't see how a woman can be the perpetrator, and would like to see how
the attorney general can make that argument. As I stated before, I can use
violence against a male, and that would be assault, but how I can plausibly
get a male victim of that violence to forcibly sustain an erection, forcibly
enter me, forcibly ejaculate, assuming he has been injured, is beyond me.

Law & Order tried it once with a male stripper story, and I didn't find it
convincing then either.
tony cooper - 28 Nov 2007 17:26 GMT
> how I can plausibly
>get a male victim of that violence to forcibly sustain an erection, forcibly
>enter me, forcibly ejaculate, assuming he has been injured, is beyond me.

You might try holding a gun to his head.  
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Peter Duncanson - 28 Nov 2007 17:50 GMT
>I don't see how a woman can be the perpetrator, and would like to see how
>the attorney general can make that argument. As I stated before, I can use
>violence against a male, and that would be assault, but how I can plausibly
>get a male victim of that violence to forcibly sustain an erection, forcibly
>enter me, forcibly ejaculate, assuming he has been injured, is beyond me.

That might work if the man is seriously masochistic.

The woman could be the perpetrator if the man is under the age
of consent. If he is older, there could be prolonged discussion
by lawyers as to whether his final enjoyment was an indication
of consent.

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Athel Cornish-Bowden - 28 Nov 2007 14:39 GMT
> A man can always use force. But the majority of
> women aren't going to overpower young males into forced sex.

This may come as a surprise to you, but the majority of men aren't
going to overpower young females into forced sex either. I agree with
you that the cases are not symmetrical, but let's not exaggerate the
asymmetry either.
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Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 15:13 GMT
>> A man can always use force. But the majority of
>> women aren't going to overpower young males into forced sex.
>
> This may come as a surprise to you, but the majority of men aren't going
> to overpower young females into forced sex either.

If you mean Western men, I am dubious, but in India and Africa children are
still used as sexual commodities, and are victims more often than not,
ussually of the female variety. They are then shunned, and don't have our so
called Western remedies available.

I agree with
> you that the cases are not symmetrical, but let's not exaggerate the
> asymmetry either.

Maybe if you give me a good reason. Years ago I possibly might have taken
advantage of a guy about 14 years my junior. Tempted as I was, I allowed my
moral scrupples to kick in and eventually ended contact before things got
sticky. If I had seduced him though, it is still not the same as male sexual
predation on adolescent females-- not that my episode involved anyone under
18.  I add that qualification in case the FBI is reading this :)
> athel
QT - 28 Nov 2007 14:45 GMT
> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?

Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?
Unless by "man" you mean, well, men in general?

qt
Joanne Marinelli - 28 Nov 2007 15:14 GMT
>> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>
> Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?
> Unless by "man" you mean, well, men in general?

Men can raped through anal penetration.
Peter Duncanson - 28 Nov 2007 15:44 GMT
>>> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>>
>> Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?
>> Unless by "man" you mean, well, men in general?
>>
>Men can raped through anal penetration.

As can women, of course.

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HVS - 28 Nov 2007 15:50 GMT
On 28 Nov 2007, Joanne Marinelli wrote

>>> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>>
>> Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?
>> Unless by "man" you mean, well, men in general?
>>
> Men can raped through anal penetration.

It may have changed since then, but in Scotland in 2001 they couldn't
-- at least not legally. (Quotations and source is elsethread.)

I would be amazed if the laws of all 50 US states define male-on-male
forced sexual assault as "rape".
Richard Yates - 29 Nov 2007 19:48 GMT
> I would be amazed if the laws of all 50 US states define male-on-male
> forced sexual assault as "rape".

FWIW, Oregon law distinguishes between rape and sodomy (italics added):

" 163.405 Sodomy in the first degree. (1) A person who engages in deviate sexual intercourse with another person or causes another to engage in deviate sexual intercourse commits the crime of sodomy in the first degree if..." and " 'Deviate sexual intercourse' means sexual conduct between persons consisting of contact between the sex organs of one person and the mouth or anus of another."

"163.375 Rape in the first degree. (1) A person who has sexual intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the first degree if..." and " 'Sexual intercourse' has its ordinary meaning and occurs upon any penetration, however slight; emission is not required."

Richard Yates
Robert Lieblich - 29 Nov 2007 23:55 GMT
> Richard Yates wrote:

[quoting Joanne Marinelli without attribution]

> > I would be amazed if the laws of all 50 US states define
> male-on-male
[quoted text clipped - 14 lines]
> meaning and occurs upon any penetration, however slight; emission is
> not required."

If you had quoted the Oregon statute the criminalizes rape, we'd have
seen this:

<quote>

163.355 Rape in the third degree. (1) A person commits the crime of
rape in the third degree if the person has sexual intercourse with
another person under 16 years of age.

     (2) Rape in the third degree is a Class C felony. [1971 c.743
§109; 1991 c.628 §1]

      163.365 Rape in the second degree. (1) A person who has sexual
intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the
second degree if the other person is under 14 years of age.

     (2) Rape in the second degree is a Class B felony. [1971 c.743
§110; 1989 c.359 §1; 1991 c.628 §2]

     163.375 Rape in the first degree. (1) A person who has sexual
intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the first
degree if:

     (a) The victim is subjected to forcible compulsion by the
person;

     (b) The victim is under 12 years of age;

     (c) The victim is under 16 years of age and is the person’s
sibling, of the whole or half blood, the person’s child or the
person’s spouse’s child; or

     (d) The victim is incapable of consent by reason of mental
defect, mental incapacitation or physical helplessness.

     (2) Rape in the first degree is a Class A felony. [1971 c.743
§111; 1989 c.359 §2; 1991 c.628 §3]

</quote>

"Deviate sexual intercourse" as defined by the Oregon statute is
"sexual conduct between persons consisting of contact between the sex
organs of one person and the mouth or anus of another."  And here is
the definition of plain old "sexual intercourse": "'Sexual
intercourse' has its ordinary meaning and occurs upon any penetration,
however slight; emission is not required."  There are three sections
of Oregon law that cover "sodomy," which parallel the three sections
on rape except that they deal with "deviate sexual intercourse" rather
than the regular sort.

So, okay, in Oregon "rape" is male-on-female vaginal intercourse and
"sodomy" is all else.  Nothing peculiar about that; it's just one of
several ways the law can deal with such things.  Note that, in Oregon
at least, consensual "deviate sexual intercourse" between two persons
over the age of 16 is no more a crime than is regular sex between two
persons over the age of 16.

It's also clear that Oregon law felonizes sex (of the non-deviate
kind) with a person under 16 -- without regard to consent -- and
labels it "rape," albeit "third degree" rape.  If the "victim" is
under 14, it's second degree rape, and under 12 will get you first
degree rape.

So where are we?  There's at least one state that doesn't include
male-male sex in its definition of "rap," so Joanne was correct when
she said "I would be amazed if the laws of all 50 US states define
male-on-male forced sexual assault as 'rape'."  One exception is all
it takes.  On the other hand, Joanne's notion that non-forcible
intercourse with people under a given age is not "rape" takes a rather
heavy blow from the Oregon statute.  Still, .500 is damned good in
baseball.

BTW, the Oregon statute has been subjected to a withering critique by
one blogger:
<http://moderatelyinsane.blogspot.com/2006/10/analysis-of-oregon-rape-law.html>.
I haven't bothered to try to figure out if he's right, but it's a fun
rant.
HVS - 28 Nov 2007 15:41 GMT
On 28 Nov 2007, QT wrote

>> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>
> Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?

Robert's the lawyer here and can correct me if I'm wrong, but if you
Google on "legal definition of rape" you'll find that it's
jurisdictional.

Some jurisdictions define it the way you've indicated, while others
don't specify what orifice or organs must be involved.

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Alan Jones - 28 Nov 2007 16:28 GMT
>> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>
> Lolz, isn't something called vagina needed for raping?
> Unless by "man" you mean, well, men in general?

Wikipedia defines the current English law thus, quoting verbatim from the
Sexual OffencesAct of 2003/4, which very considerably modifies the
traditional Common Law on rape.

"A person (A) commits an offence if-
(a) he intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person
(B) with his penis,
(b) B does not consent to the penetration, and
(c) A does not reasonably believe that B consents."

So a man or boy can be raped, but a woman cannot in her own person commit
rape. As I understand it, however, she might be jointly charged with a man
if she were actively assisting him in raping a third person. Sexual
penetration with an object by any person without consent is a separate
offence which incurs the same maximum penalty as rape. "Consent" cannot by
definition be given by a person of either sex under 13.

Alan Jones
Robert Lieblich - 29 Nov 2007 00:48 GMT
> >> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
> >
[quoted text clipped - 17 lines]
> offence which incurs the same maximum penalty as rape. "Consent" cannot by
> definition be given by a person of either sex under 13.

I can't speak about English law, but in many American jurisdictions,
and in the dictionary definition from MW that Joanne originally
quoted, "rape" includes non-forcible sexual intercourse with a person
under what is often called "the age of consent."  That age varies form
place to place but tends to hover around 15 or 16.  Apparent consent
is irrelevant, because the "victim" is irrebuttably presumed by the
law to be incapable of consenting if below the age of consent.  One
term for this sort of intercourse is "statutory rape," because it was
not a crime at common law but became one through the enactment of
statutes criminalizing it.

It is, of course, possible to use some term other than rape for
non-forcible intercourse with a minor.  One could call it "lewd
conduct with a minor," for example, or even "contributing to the
delinquency of a minor."[1]  Or one could simply describe it and
declare it a felony with punishments to match. There's no rule
requiring that "rape" label all sorts of criminalized sexual
intercourse.

The foregoing was a discussion of legal terminology.  Legal
terminology can, and in some cases does, attach the label "rape" to
non-forcible intercourse with a person under a certain age.  When we
get into the ordinary use of the term in everyday conversation, its
meaning is not fixed.  If Joanne wants to say that nothing but
forcible vaginal penetration of a woman by a man is "rape" to her,
that's what "rape" is to her.  (Or if she has some other sensible
definition, the result is the same.)  Of course, at that point we are
doing little but exchanging our respective subjective definitions, and
as long as "rape" doesn't include things like an uninvited peck on the
cheek there's unlikely to be any productive conversation about what
"rape" means.  Joanne has her definition, and it works for her, and I
have mine and it works for me, and that's really the end of the
discussion.

And if she hadn't cited a dictionary definition that didn't match her
personal definition (leading me to wonder exactly what she was trying
to prove), I probably would have held my tongue.

[1]  The law is laden with euphemisms for sexual terms, of which the
most notorious is probably "the abominable and detestable crime
against nature."  That one is now mainly of historic interest.
Joanne Marinelli - 29 Nov 2007 04:39 GMT
>> >> Also, can't one man forcibly rape another?
>> >
[quoted text clipped - 54 lines]
> have mine and it works for me, and that's really the end of the
> discussion.

Why is it really the end of the discussion? Because you say so? I have a
valid concern  about TOTN blithely passing the ERA when it comes to sex
crimes. I see nothing in the MW definition that leads one to think male
rapists and female rapists are one and the same. "Usually of a female" is a
qualifier about the victim, not the perpetrator.

I would even go further and say that a male teacher sleeping with a 17 year
old student is not the same thing as a 12 year old boy being molested by a
scout leader or a priest, and that your insistence on hanging me out to dry
over nuance means that you do not see the larger problem which concerns me.

Words matter, and rape should be reserved for the worst sex crimes, not for
every form of sexual misconduct. There is a reason that female teacher and
her 14 year old lover became the butt of so many jokes on late night
television. No one took the gravity of her crime, nor the legal remedy for
it seriously, and when the then notorious couple appeared on ET, she had all
the appearance of someone who needed a decent therapist, rather than an
outlaw.
Robert Lieblich - 29 Nov 2007 05:08 GMT
[ ... ]

> Why is it really the end of the discussion? Because you say so?

No, not because I say so.  You started this thread by defining "rape,"
and as far as I could tell that was your sole purpose in starting it.
It is now clear that you were not seeking an objective definition of
the term around which consensus could form (even in legal circles
there is no single agreed definition of the word), but were simply
telling us what you think rape is, i.e., what the defintion of the
word is.  Since we all have our own definitions of rape, there's
little point in simply exchanging them as if they were pictures of our
children to be passed around.  So that discussion has nowhere to go.

I've snipped the remainder of your post, in which you try to sell your
definition of "rape" to others.  I think it pointless.  You seem to
disagree.  Okay, so be it.  But my view of this is that you are
wasting your time.  It's rare indeed that an argument over definition
of terms serves any point.  This is not one of those rare occasions.

If your point is that too many women are subjected to forcible rape,
make that point, even though it's off-topic.  If your point is that
people use the single label "rape" for a range of different offenses
of different severity, no one is disagreeing with you.  If your point
is that they shouldn't do that, you're pissing upwind.

Note that no one yet has shown any indication of reconsidering how
they use the word "rape" to accommodate your views.  I'll be astounded
if anyone does.

None of the foregoing is intended as an endorsement by me of forcible
rape, which is a violent felony and deserves severe punishment.  I'm
talking usage here.

[ ... ]
Joanne Marinelli - 29 Nov 2007 07:30 GMT
> [ ... ]
>
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
> I've snipped the remainder of your post, in which you try to sell your
> definition of "rape" to others.  I think it pointless.

Resuming any conversation with you was pointless. You are nothing but a smug
pretentious bastard, and since you piss me off, and that anger doesn't do me
any good, I won't make the same mistake a third time.
Robert Lieblich - 29 Nov 2007 11:42 GMT
> > [ ... ]
> >
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
> pretentious bastard, and since you piss me off, and that anger doesn't do me
> any good, I won't make the same mistake a third time.

Thus do we make progress.
Peter Duncanson - 29 Nov 2007 13:55 GMT
>> > [ ... ]
>> >
[quoted text clipped - 18 lines]
>
>Thus do we make progress.

I don't know whether you are secretly smug and pretentious, Bob,
but I've seen nothing smug and pretentious in your posts.

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Robert Lieblich - 29 Nov 2007 23:50 GMT
[ ... ]

> I don't know whether you are secretly smug and pretentious, Bob,
> but I've seen nothing smug and pretentious in your posts.

You obviously haven't been paying close enough attention.

[But thank you anyway.]
Offramp - 29 Nov 2007 14:07 GMT
Dear Ms Marinelli,
Tell us what you want us to say and we'll say it.
Thorsten Kampe - 29 Nov 2007 12:57 GMT
* Joanne Marinelli (Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:24:42 GMT)
> I usually enjoy Talk of The Nation on PBS, but yesterday's
> discussion turned into a victimology session as folks crawled out of
> the woodwork to decry teachers who had sexually abused them. What
> further raised my objection flag was the guest who insisted that
> women who have intercourse with their students are just as guilty as
> men of rape.

I agree that this is not rape but may be abuse.

> I don't deny that women can manipulate male teens and do them some
> damage, but they cannot legally commit rape. Abuse, assault,
> corrupting a minor, these will do, but rape has always been defined
> as violent forced intercourse against a woman.

That's the traditional definition used until about hundred years ago.

You don't need a penis to rape and a vagina to be raped so there's
nothing that would suggest that the victim has to be female and the
aggressor to be male.

Thorsten
 
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